And so it begins…

So I called in Day 1 of my cycle yesterday to both our main clinic and the clinic where I will have the monitoring done. I was instructed by the nurse at our monitoring clinic to go in Saturday morning to have blood work and an ultrasound completed. A short while later, the nurse at our main clinic called and informed me that we do not need the ultrasound yet, only blood work, as I will be placed back on birth control initially to help sync up our donor’s cycle with my own.

She finally gave me an idea of a timeline – IF our donor calls in her day one soon, I am looking at approx. 10 or so days on birth control before starting meds to begin preparing my lining for the fresh transfer. Fingers crossed our donor begins her cycle soon as I am dying to get this moving as quickly as possible.

On another note – the fertility lawyer we have selected to draw up the donor ovum contract is driving me CRAZY! Not only are we paying her a ridiculous amount of money for a four page document (I clearly got into the wrong career), I feel like she isn’t listening to me, communicating well or doing anything quickly. I’ve been trying to get this contract finalized for a month now and it seems impossible when it takes days to get any sort of reply. I have asked for the same issue to be changed in the contract three times and upon receiving our final draft today – noticed that the change has yet to be made – and it is a significant section of the agreement.


Thank goodness we are being charged a flat rate because the amount of back and forth that is happening would probably cost a fortune if it were any other way. I just want our lawyer to HEAR what I am asking for as I have literally asked for one word to be changed to a different word – that is all. Three times.

Our donor has a meeting with her lawyer in just under a week and a half – we will already be into our cycle by then – and we have yet to receive a contract suitable enough to forward to her lawyer.untitled (5)

Gotta love added frustrations…

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Question for the IVF community (TMI warning)

Just a quick question…

We are to be calling in cycle day 1 this coming week for our first ever ivf cycle and of course this month things seem like they don’t want to be normal. I am currently taking birth control as I don’t get a regular cycle on my own. Even though I am still taking my pills I had some minimal brownish spotting today –  but I’m assuming that wouldn’t be considered day 1? There’s barely anything when I wipe,  just noticed it in my underwear.

I am scheduled to stop taking my pill on Monday.

Thoughts please?

When using an egg donor…

The IVF process is not easy. It has been made even more complicated by the fact that we have to use a third party – an egg donor.

It has been a difficult process navigating the IVF world – as a first timer – plus adding in all of the extra steps involved for using a known donor. All of the reading material I find is majorly directed toward individuals or couples going through the process using their own eggs and sperm or their own eggs and donated sperm. The IVF process is outlined and explained very well for those who are in these situations.

For those of us who do not fall within those pretty guidelines…

I am left wondering where the divide lies between what our donor must complete and where my portion starts. I am left self-advocating for as much information as possible to help me understand how this process works and what my involvement will be and what portions of this process actually apply to me.

Our donor and I have received emails directing us to call in our day one in May and that on day 3 we are to start birth control pills…..however… I, unlike most women in the TTC community, am currently taking birth control pills as a hormone supplement; something I have been doing since I was 12. If I stop taking birth control prior to starting our cycle, I will not have a day one to call in about but I don’t want to keep taking it if it might mess up something with the cycle. After speaking with three different people at our clinic, I was finally able to find out that I can continue to take birth control and call in my day one when it occurs. I will then proceed to restart birth control on day three.

This is just one example of how things are different with using a donor – beyond the simple facts of genetic material and all of the emotional struggles that accompany this. Maybe one day I will try my hand at a “IVF – Using Egg Donor for Dummies” to help supply a step by step breakdown of what is to be expected in this process; because all in all – it really sucks feeling lost.